Why do they pull away, when you get too close? Or maybe you're the one who need space, at times.
We all want to be loved. But, we each have different comfort zones for how much closeness feels good.
So, how do you balance that out in your relationship?
• There will always be times when your partner can't be there for you. That's why it's good to have friends and others to turn to. You'll get some of your needs met. And you’ll be less likely to overwhelm your partner, when they're ready to reconnect.
• If you're the one needing space, remind your partner that you care. But, let them know, you just need a little time to yourself. Then when you're ready, you can reach out and reconnect. But, it's really important to take time for yourself when you need it. Or, you're likely to shut down in the relationship.
You're never going to be in sync at all times. But, if you can give each other breathing room when you need it, you'll reconnect faster.
Some partners have very different closeness comfort zones, that's a different story. But, most of the time, if you respect your different needs, you can find your way back to each other.
Take good care of yourself and each other.
Vondie
p.s.
We'll be talking about your Closeness Comfort Zoneat our next Relationship Talk, Saturday, June 6th, 3:00 - 4:30 p.m. at the Village Book Shop in Glendora. For more information, just click here.
Every individual and situation is different. The information presented here is general and educational. It is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to be, nor should it be considered to be a substitute for consultation with a qualified mental health professional that is familiar with your particular situation. There is also no guarantee being made as a result of information provided or counseling services offered.
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